Daddy Issues

Judgment Day Billboards
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Will those conservatives never learn? « No Yelling

Silly House Republicans. They seem to think you can have both — that you can keep campaign promises and govern at the same time. They don’t seem to realize that there comes a time where you forget what you told your constituents back home while you were trying to get elected, and get down to the real business of governing. 

Burris, David Meeks, Ed Garner, and the rest should be pardoned for an honest mistake. They think that doing what they promised they would do is part of the real business of governing.
Will those conservatives never learn?

This blog is written by a former college classmate slash current editor of a magazine I’m a staff writer for (but I haven’t written anything in several months). He and I have different political viewpoints mostly, but it’s fine because we’re mature adults and can discuss things without being hurtful. This particular excerpt is from an entry I agree with. His facetiousness is awesome, but the driving point in the entry is that politicians keeping campaign promises is a good thing.

Even if I don’t agree with the platforms of any given politician, once they’ve been elected, I shouldn’t hate them for standing firm on doing what they’d campaigned to do. I think we’ve gotten to used to politicians who don’t do what they promise that we’re offended if politicians do what they’ve promised.

Freya Progress Report

My beautiful Freya is fattening up on Enfamil PREMIUM® Newborn, but I am still concerned about her overall health.

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Syncing and Cross-Posting

Whether you’re a blogger, a business owner, or an individual that just loves to network you’ve probably created an account on at least one email client, messaging service, or social networking site. More than likely, you have several accounts, perhaps some for business and some for personal use or perhaps you have business or personal contacts accessible through some services but not others. Regardless of the reasons for having various accounts, you may be looking for ways to make sharing updates and information to all of them a more streamlined process.

Ways to Sync

Exporting and importing contact lists

·         Many of these services have the option of exporting your contact list in the form of an .html document. The process is pretty simple and usually the sites have helpful walk-throughs. Once a document has been created, it can be imported easily into other services.

Auto-syncing

·         Yahoo! Messenger (version 11.0.0.1751) has auto-sync capabilities. On the “Contacts” menu there is an “Import Contacts” option. It will open a window showing several different email clients you can import from. This latest version of Yahoo! Messenger supports contact importing for Outlook, AOL, MSN, Gmail, and several others. In addition, you can include your Twitter and facebook feeds.

·         AIM now also has similar auto-sync capabilities to Yahoo! Messenger with the addition of GTalk.

·         Windows Live also lets you auto-sync with other accounts.

·         Smart phones usually have some type of auto-syncing. Mine can sync facebook, Gmail, Twitter, and my corporate account to my phone’s contact list. When I add new contacts, I have the option of saving them either to the phone or to Gmail.

·         Many websites also have “Find Friends” options that amount to the same thing.

Sync apps

·         Before Yahoo! and other popular messaging services figured out that people wanted to combine services into one convenient place, programs like Trillion were popular. These still exist and can still come in handy. My personal favorite for my smart phone is eBuddy which combines MSN, Yahoo!, AIM, GTalk, facebook, ICQ, HVES and MySpace.

·         Facebook has several apps that allow you to sync to Twitter and also some other sites.

·         A simple Google search for terms like “Twitter sync” or “sync mail accounts” turns up options for various different add-ons to your browser, your messenger services or your email clients.

Cross-Posting

Syncing isn’t just for ease of access and saving space on a computer or mobile device. It can also help you when cross-posting updates, links, and such.

Synced Accounts

With the addition of Twitter and facebook feeds to Yahoo! Messenger and AIM, you can use the status update on these messengers to post content to both sites (bad news for affiliate users: Yahoo! Messenger doesn’t allow TunyURL.com links in a status update).

Facebook and Twitter are now working together more smoothly in regards to cross-posting. Aside from the aforementioned apps for personal accounts, business accounts and fan pages now have the option of directly syncing to a Twitter account without the need of an added app. I enabled this feature for my blog’s facebook page and my freelance writing business page. When I post anything on the walls of these two pages, it instantly appears in my Twitter stream (on a related note: Facebook users can now browse facebook as their pages rather than just their personal accounts, allowing for more opportunities to spread the word about your business or blog).

Broswer Add-Ons

Even after you’ve synced accounts, cross-posting may still need to be done manually. Not all accounts support syncing and sometimes you may want to share something to only a few of your accounts. Rather than the tedious process of pulling up the separate accounts in different tabs or windows to copy and paste the information, sites such as Sharaholic and AddThis provide browser add-ons with buttons or drop-down menus on the toolbar to share pages almost instantly to many different social networking and bookmarking sites.

Automation

Programs

Some bloggers and business owners have found automation programs helpful for posting to their social networking sites. Programs such as TweetAdder3 (which allows users to build up followers and followees on Twitter as well as posting automated status updates, replies, and direct messages) have cropped up all over the place. While these automation programs can serve useful purposes, they also run the risk of getting the user into trouble for spamming, so they must be used cautiously if at all.

Websites

An alternative to automation programs are websites such as Posterous, Ping.fm, and Amplify, which provide a means of cross-posting as well as aiding in the blog-syndication process. Posterous is an especially useful tool, as it actually allows you to email content that will get posted to your blog and shared to your social networking sites, a one-stop-shop for the busy blogger. It doesn’t seem to support as many bookmarking sites as the aforementioned browser add-ons, but the ability to auto-post to multiple blog-hosting sites all at once seems to balance that out.

RSS Feeds

If you have an account on facebook, MySpace, or similar social networking site, blog posts can be brought in the “note” or “blog” section of that site using your blog’s RSS Feed. I have my blog set up through FeedBurner, and it syncs with my personal facebook page at regular intervals. RSS Feeds cans be used to share a blog through the NetworkedBlogs syndication app on facebook, through Google Reader, and through various other sites that accept feeds. You can also use an RSS Feed on any website that you can input HTML or Javascript code into.  You can also use an RSS Feed to show your Twitter feed on another site.

There are up-sides and down-sides to syndicating your blog through RSS Feeds. Users who access the blog through sites other than the one originates from may not feel inclined to visit your actual site if they get all the content from syndication. However, if you write well and it’s obvious your site has more to offer than the syndicated version, they may still check the site out. Syndicating through services like the Kindle Blog Store on Amazon.com has the added bonus of providing the potential to earn a small monthly income from Kindle subscribers. You can choose to limit the amount of content that is syndicated, such as only sending content up to the jump break for a teaser that pulls readers back to your blog.

Go Post!

There are plenty of ways to reach all of your friends and fans simultaneously or within a short time period, so there’s no longer a need to waste precious time manually posting your updates and links to all of your accounts.  Employing any of these tools can get you back to the business of being in business (or back to the business of blogging) because, as the old saying goes, time is money.

Breakfast

Luna has suggested we eat PlayDough eggs for breakfast.

Proposed law: Women get death if they miscarry

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“Suffer not a witch to live” reads Exodus 22:18 in some translations of the Christian bible, and while religioustolerance.org offers a wonderful article about what this actually means and how people misinterpret it today, there are many people in this country (USA) who still take it to mean that a witch should die.

Witchcraft and sorcery have, sadly, long been associated with negative things by many people. One of the common things to accuse a witch of is interfering in the reproductive rights of others or of being unable to carry anything but demon spawn inside their otherwise barren wombs.

One would think that such thinking has no place in our modern society, but Google witch + miscarriage and see how many forum posts of women blaming some phantom witch (usually old) for their miscarriages. Most of the women, probably, are merely repeating the “witches cause miscarriages” thing because it is something they heard before and they don’t realize that it can be offensive. They probably wouldn’t actually go on a witch hunt for that “old witch.” And most people probably wouldn’t tell a woman who has just suffered a miscarriage that she, herself, had something to do with it, whether physical, metaphysical, paranormal, or whatever else.

“A Georgia lawmaker is promoting a bill that would hold a woman legally responsible for a miscarriage, and could result in a death penalty for the would-be mom:
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/21134540/vp/41889946#41889946”
This proposed law, according to the news report, is not a new concept. Other states have apparently also tried to pass similar laws. While I understand and appreciate the controversies surrounding deliberate abortion (and I’ll share my opinions if you want them), the medical term for miscarriages—spontaneous abortion—doesn’t make them equal to deliberate abortion.

Most miscarriages are simply not preventable. Some could have been prevented had a licensed medical professional spotted a problem in time. Some could have been prevented had a licensed medical professional stopped interfering (see my post on misdiagnosed miscarriage). I have met a few women who, in hindsight, can say that they feel the miscarriage happened for a reason and are grateful the child didn’t have to suffer after birth in some way.

However, I’ve yet to meet a woman who truly wanted to have a miscarriage. I have met women who regret abortions; some felt forced into the decision in some way, others say they weren’t thinking about whether they’d regret it later. Most would agree that it was a decision process for them.

For the Georgia lawmaker and others who cannot tell the difference, the attached image is a handy Venn diagram I made to illustrate my point.

Daddy Issues

I accepted my biological father’s add request just now; apparently he created a new facebook page today and sent me a request. One of my main reasons for blocking him before was so he couldn’t see pics of my girls, but since I’ve been photoblogging lately, that point is probably moot.

If you’ve been with my blog from the beginning (heartchasms.blogspot.com circa 2005) you’ll remember the entries I’ve done discussing my “daddy issues.” I would be a “bad mother” if I put my girls at risk, knowing what I know. But for the sake of my young siblings, I really want to believe that he’s a changed man.

His wife is nice; she posts about him on facebook all the time, about their loving marriage and their happy children. From the outside looking in it’s the picture-perfect modern American family. I honestly, really, truly, want that to be the case. If my siblings are growing up with the childhood I never had, that is wonderful. Some small part of me, that tattered inner child, would wrongly be just a little bit jealous, but most of me would be very very happy for them.

My girls don’t know “grandfather.”

Luna has met my current father-in-law (husband’s step-father since he was a teenager) but not his biological father (who passed away before I met husband); we don’t have issue with her calling him “Grampa” or any derivative, but she was too young to keep the word in memory the last time he was here and she hasn’t talked to him since.

I was pregnant with Luna the last time I spoke with my step-father, the man who raised me and (though some of my hostility towards him was not undeserved) was a mostly great influence on me and didn’t get the respect he probably deserved for taking on his brother’s broken children all those years ago. We had a falling-out in my third trimester and he told me to never speak to him again; I unfortunately took his words to heart. He died last year.

It was at his funeral that Luna met my biological father for the first time. The meeting was not intentional. I had planned to leave husband and Luna or just Luna with husband’s family while I went to the funeral services, but it just didn’t work out that way for various reasons.

Luna has never met a stranger in her life. She wasn’t immediately drawn to her genetic grandfather, but she also didn’t seem afraid of him. Still, I cannot leave the girls alone with him. I cannot send them on weekend visits. I cannot let go of the things toddler-me went through.

So I did accept his add request today. I had only stopped talking too him during my pregnancy with Luna, for the reasons mentioned above. We’ll see if we can both be adult in our online interactions, and I’ll avoid discussions that require me to tactfully bow out of in-person interaction that involves my children…

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